I have been wanting to write about this for a long time. A lot of things have held me back, many of those things probably directly linked to the lack of popularity the subject will have. And then more so the lack of popularity my opinion will have. So, trusting that there is reasons beyond my understanding that support the need for this blog, I shall write!
I have never been much of a "yes" girl. I would like to attribute my lack of close friendships to that quality. You know what a "yes" girl is.....it's that kind of friend you call upon when you need your poor actions, choices, or opinions validated! You need someone to help you justify the things you've said, thought or done. You don't instinctively call on your "truth" girl! She is far too threatening when you're in that mode. I know-I've made calls to my yes girls! I've watched my girls follow in those footsteps. I've witnessed them choose their "yes" girls when they are at a point when what they really need is their truth girl. And I've watched them choose their truth girl. The latter option, always has the better outcome.
I have spent tears wondering, wishing I could understand why I have had CLOSE friends lie to me or avoid me when they are struggling with something. Why I am not the friend they chose for comforting. I have fought to understand why I can't just keep my mouth shut. I have wanted, at times, to be a yes girl. I struggle sometimes with deciding do I follow the Spirit and speak truth or do I say what I think my friend wants to hear?? A decision has been made; I pray I am never your "yes" girl. Even if that means you don't call me when you are struggling. I have to believe that you want what I want; and that is someone that will pour Truth into me even when it hurts. When I call to vent about my husband, remind me what a blessing he is and ask if I have examined myself in whatever situation. If I am complaining about church leadership or ministries, please ask if I am willing to be part of the solution. If I am calling to talk about someone else's drama, please ask me to shut it up. If I stop you to come up with a plan to cut some corners, please just help me devise a way to round them. If I am telling you too much info about one of my beautiful children, please remind me how much that hurts them. Please be my truth girls!
Over the past year this topic has been ringing all too true in my life. Hangin' with my BFF in Nashville gave me the glorious reminder of how truly irreplaceable a truth girl is. I am thankful for people in my life that give me truth no matter what. I pray that my girls always choose truth girls. I pray that you choose to be a truth girl. -no one needs another "yes" girl.
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